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Avoiding the unavoidable- Choosing a guardian


YOU will never find someone to parent your child as well as you

YOU will never find comfort in the fact that you have chosen a guardian as it means leaving your child.

YOU will never find it easy, EVER

With this in mind we have decided it’s time to get a move on things

But it’s so HARD

You have to picture your children without parents. Without you.

Death, the one thing that you strive so hard to avoid but need a contingency plan just in case.

The bottom line, as I have found is that if we don’t have a plan the decision is left up to the state. Someone that doesn’t know me, my child or our family.

Some may have an easy solution while others have complex family situations to consider.

To make our decision easier we have drawn up some areas that are important to us. This is our phase one of deciphering an incredibly hard topic, one that we have avoided for over three years.

couple deciding

1. Who is close to your child? Who do we trust?

2. Are they in close proximity to you or would it matter if they moved?

3. Do they want or have children?

4. Are their parenting styles and values in line with your own or similar?

5. Who is capable of taking on a child? Taking in to consideration finances, physicality and emotion.

This is a good start to narrow down a few guardians and to move away from the idea of impossibility.

In talking to a few Mums with similar aged kids there was a general consensus that the decision will never be made easy.  It will also never feel right but you will at least know your wishes are formalised  and known to those that you love.


We love a resource-

How to Choose and Appoint a Guardian for Minor Children

Australian Guardianship Law


Hi! I'm Kate, I hail from Melbourne with my three loves, Willow, Matisse and my husband Dan. I enjoy staying active, attempting to be crafty, discovering new recipes and fun things to do with my daughters. I have found that becoming a mum has tapped in to this raw positive energy that I never knew I had. In this weird new world I live in I've found that I need to look after myself more to keep myself healthy and be a positive role model for the littler ones. Keeping this in mind has kept me on track to create the best me and be a better Mum. Well it's a work in progress but we all need to aspire to something right? I am also a writer, chugging away at that elusive novel but now is the time people. I am writing and you get to hear all about it, just joking, I won't bore you with that. If you want to know where I'm at please feel free to ask it might give me a boot to get me going in my less motivated of moments. I'm passionate about women's rights, equality, children's rights and mental health. I want to say social justice as a whole but it is so broad. I believe we all have the right to be the best that we can. I look forward to getting to know you all and sharing my crazy life.

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