Posted in Parenthood

Raising a Teenager Scares Me- ‘Our Kids- Why Are They So Stressed?’

My Dad’s advice to me recently when I was sharing my struggles dealing with a toddler was to wait until she becomes a teenager, that’s when it gets real. Not to take away from the fact that any age has varying degrees of difficulties raising a teenager scares me.

Four Corners aired a documentary ‘Our Kids- Why Are They So Stressed?’ This gave amazing insight in to how stress plays out in teenager’s lives sometimes culminating in self-harm, drug and alcohol abuse or even suicide.

Bullying and fitting in were key components of stress along with balancing school and external activities. Social media also played a big part in exacerbating stressful situations.

It is such a massive topic and one that can’t be discussed lightly or in a short blog post but watching this highlighted two things for me. Always have open conversations with your children and listen more closely.

Beautifully summarised one of the girls in the documentary said that all she believes parents need to do is ask these few questions at the end of the day:

How was school?

How are you feeling?

How are your friends?

Is there anything stressing you out?

What can we do about this?

Another comment I found useful was to ‘Be available and free to talk without judgment’. So often kids fear rejection, anger or disappointment from their parents but having honest and frank discussions could really help them to open up and get to the bottom of where their stress is coming from.

A few of the younger ones stated ‘Be by their side to help them when they need you’ and ‘don’t wrap them up in cotton wool’ I found this so innocent and pure. In other words be there but don’t smother me.

Is it harder for kids now than when I was younger? I know my teenage self would have told you nothing is more awful than right now.

I hope listening more closely and having insight in to what a rebellious teen life is like will give me a leg up for when the time comes.

Click here to check out ‘Our Kids- Why Are They So Stressed?’

Advertisements

Author:

Hi! I'm Kate, I hail from Melbourne with my three loves, Willow, Matisse and my husband Dan. I enjoy staying active, attempting to be crafty, discovering new recipes and fun things to do with my daughters. I have found that becoming a mum has tapped in to this raw positive energy that I never knew I had. In this weird new world I live in I've found that I need to look after myself more to keep myself healthy and be a positive role model for the littler ones. Keeping this in mind has kept me on track to create the best me and be a better Mum. Well it's a work in progress but we all need to aspire to something right? I am also a writer, chugging away at that elusive novel but now is the time people. I am writing and you get to hear all about it, just joking, I won't bore you with that. If you want to know where I'm at please feel free to ask it might give me a boot to get me going in my less motivated of moments. I'm passionate about women's rights, equality, children's rights and mental health. I want to say social justice as a whole but it is so broad. I believe we all have the right to be the best that we can. I look forward to getting to know you all and sharing my crazy life.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s