Drew Barrymore and Will Kopelman made the news today. Sadly they are divorcing. There was a particular level of surprise as they have always appeared so happy and balanced. She has often commented that she had found the family with Will she never had growing up.
In reading of the break up I came across this quote from Mrs Barrymore that sounded all too familiar:
“People are like, you know, ‘Do you go out on date night, and like, ‘Do you put the relationship first?’ I was like, ‘No…’ We’re just in it, you know? We have a one-and-a-half and a three-year-old and you know, I think we’ve put the parenting first right now.”
With their relationship now over it brought up a few questions:
Can the busyness of parenting take away from the relationship?
How do you find the balance?
What can be worked at to keep the relationship on track?
Five sure fire ways to keep the old fires burning-
- Have fun and be cheeky. The bones may not spell twenty two anymore but laughing will keep you and the relationship you.
- Date night. You might not have family close by to rescue you so have a date night at home. Turn the TV off, devices tucked away.
- Talk it out. They say don’t go to bed angry but if you do make sure you follow up the next day.
- Share the load. Parenting, cooking and cleaning. Sure one may have more paid work than the other but it doesn’t mean the rest of life lands solely on the stay at home parent.
- Give each other a break. There are two days in the weekend equalling two sleep ins…. You get where I’m going. Take it in turns, have a nap.
Give it a shot and tell me what date night means to you.
I have loved you since ET and even through that crazy Firestarter movie, scary for a little kid. I hope you find happiness and I know that a relationship breakdown doesn’t fall down to one comment made flippantly to come boring reporter, you have just made me reassess the fact that I put zero effort in to our twelve year anniversary today. No one is ever perfect.