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One question with a loaded answer

It’s interesting when I talk about mummakate with people I always get the question ‘so what parenting method do you ascribe to?’ . It throws me for six a little as I’m not sure if I’m meant to follow some method to be a proper parent or have a particular way of doing things in the blog. 

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I am my method, it is going great, thanks for asking. Most of the time anyway. The kid is two after all. I’m a bonafide success story.

Parenting adds definition to my person, I’m a Mum, Matisse’s Mum, I’m also a wife, a writer, an employee a terrible cook and an okay housekeeper. I love it but I would put my ‘method’ down as chaotic. It’s all labels. A bit of this and a bit of that. Actually it’s possibly more instinct and what fits the family dynamic. 

Growing rather large and very excited at the prospect of becoming a Mum I researched all possibilities and ways in which you do things. One gazillion books and many blogs, stories upon stories about what works. They say the magic will happen if you  follow the steps but it doesn’t necessarily work for everybody. 


I quickly learnt my heart ruled. Wow, that sounds stupidly mushy. I couldn’t handle her crying so I would stay with her until after she was asleep so that I could creep out ever so quietly avoiding all creaks in the floor. It was ridiculous but it worked for us. I was the failure at self settling. Many hours were spent and in the end I discovered feeding her to sleep was the most brilliant thing ever invented. Whoever came up with it, kudos to them. 

Ultimately I have found that the parenting gig is pretty cool when you take the pressure off and keep muddling along. No real method in this but if you find one that makes life work for you let me know.

P.S Through all the trials of the first year she now goes to sleep like a champ. Most of the time…..


Hi! I'm Kate, I hail from Melbourne with my three loves, Willow, Matisse and my husband Dan. I enjoy staying active, attempting to be crafty, discovering new recipes and fun things to do with my daughters. I have found that becoming a mum has tapped in to this raw positive energy that I never knew I had. In this weird new world I live in I've found that I need to look after myself more to keep myself healthy and be a positive role model for the littler ones. Keeping this in mind has kept me on track to create the best me and be a better Mum. Well it's a work in progress but we all need to aspire to something right? I am also a writer, chugging away at that elusive novel but now is the time people. I am writing and you get to hear all about it, just joking, I won't bore you with that. If you want to know where I'm at please feel free to ask it might give me a boot to get me going in my less motivated of moments. I'm passionate about women's rights, equality, children's rights and mental health. I want to say social justice as a whole but it is so broad. I believe we all have the right to be the best that we can. I look forward to getting to know you all and sharing my crazy life.

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